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Porn and sex assistants. No, it's not a mess, but a retirement home

Reading, striking, TV series? No way. In a Danish home for the elderly, they have gone far beyond the limits of the convention and are offering a truly revolutionary program for grandmothers and grandfathers. They show them porn movies.

Our society is full of prejudices, we think, for example, that seniors at the end of life do not need sex to live. However, the enlightened social worker Maj-Britt Auning from the Danish Home for the Elderly Thorupgärden in Copenhagen decided to fight against similar prejudices and came up with an unusual and somewhat revolutionary idea.

She decided that it was high time to start respecting the elderly in the broadest sense of the word, and in the home for the elderly she set aside a room for the screening of porn films and for visits by special “assistants”. It is said that this service was initially used only by men; due to the great interest of the women’s staff, Mrs. Auning plans to extend it to both sexes.

Porn against aggression

The unusual project also had another effect: since aggression and physical violence have decreased among seniors since they started showing porn to seniors. Even the consumption of drugs, especially sedatives, has decreased. Although there were many opponents who claimed that the retirement home was not a public house, the initiator was celebrating success and even state institutions began to address the radical idea.

For example, the Danish Ministry of Labor and Social Affairs has developed several guides on how to give the elderly and disabled an orgasm. Thorupgärden was soon joined by other retirement homes, and the project also found supporters abroad, for example in Canada.

Mature women, mature erotica

The sexuality of seniors - and especially senior women - still encounters prejudice. Conservatives say that tenderness and a sense of closeness are far more important to a woman. The same sources deny women’s interest in watching pornographic movies and the very fact that a woman is visually exciting. But it’s a little different. The sexual passivity of senior women is often feared that they have ceased to be physically attractive to men, as well as fear of what the surroundings would say, especially other women.

Unconventional, sexually active women tend to be harshly criticized and condemned by their peers. The attitude of men to the sexual adventures of their friends and colleagues is much more tolerant or at least more lenient.

For example, the American actress Jane Fondová, who considers sex to be one of the most important sources of life energy, is famous for promoting sex at a mature age.

Numerous studies have shown that older women enjoy sex even more and are happier with their love life than their younger colleagues. Moreover, the ability of arousal or orgasm in a woman does not decrease with age, as previously claimed. In addition, sex has a beneficial effect on the pelvic floor and protects the woman from an undesirable phenomenon called incontinence.

Sex yes, but not with her husband

“The real reason for the decline in older women’s interest in sex is often the reluctance to run it with a sophisticated partner,” said recently deceased German sexologist Ulrike Brandenburg in one of her interviews.

Of course, it is not possible to generalize. There are people who would quite easily have sex, regardless of their age. In this context, however, I cannot fail to mention the recommendations of experts: those who want to stay fit until late age should still train. At least occasionally.